dear 20-year old self

a-sonrix (28)

MEOW!! We’re 45 years old, can you believe it? I can’t, sometimes. You know what, though? It feels just the same as it always did. Except for the experiences we’ve had since then. I caught myself thinking of you and so, thought I’d pass on a few things for you to think about.

1. Spend time with your girlfriends ~ Don’t let your boyfriend or love interest monopolize all your time. Now’s the time to enjoy your youth, your freedom [from heavy-duty commitment and responsibility] and your friends. As time passes, and you grow older, and grow into family life, you’ll find less and less time for yourself and for time spent with your friends.

2. Start saving your money now ~ Its never too early to begin saving. Saving = good. Spend-thrifting = bad. Think of saving as paying yourself first.

3. Live by yourself [i.e. on your own] ~ It may seem lonely and solitary, at first, but it will prove a invaluable experience that will pay dividends later in your life. Make sure that you can meet the challenge of self-sufficiency, before entangling your life with someone else’s.

4. Use birth control ~ Its definitely not as glamourous and easy as it seems to go through pregnancy and raise a child. If you want to get pregnant so you can have someone to love you unconditionally, then get a pet.

5. Travel, work abroad, spend time living abroad ~ Now – when you have none of the heavy-duty family responsibilities – you can afford the time, energy and cost of such an trip. Do it ~ you won’t regret it.

6. Pay cash for everything, and if you can’t, don’t buy it ~ You will have hundreds of companies [department stores, banks, etc] convincing you that you need to get a credit card, a loan, or a line of credit from them. Ignore them. Refuse them. Bankruptcy and/or a poor credit rating will follow you around for longer than you can imagine. Don’t mortgage your future opportunities for the present’s tempting frivolities.

7. Forgive your parents for whatever you think they did wrong ~ They did the best they could. Parenting looks easy, until you get there. And, really, you’d end up wasting so much time and effort being angry. Get over it.

8. Take the career path that YOU want ~ Its likely going to make some waves when you tell your parents that you don’t want to study X, but you want to study Z. Or when you tell them you have no interest in learning the family business. But, in the end, its your life. In the future you must live with the consequences of the choices you make now. Choose wisely and for the right reasons.

9. Recognize your beauty ~ Yes, you are beautiful, far more beautiful that you imagine ~ fat, thin, tall, short, big small. Now’s the time to search yourself and really find it within you to love and accept yourself, to see your own beauty within. You will not just wake up one morning and find you’ve magically come to love and accept yourself after years of being your own worse critic and enemy, even.


About vacantgurl

i sometimes work in my pyjamas, bite ice cream and ride polar bears. okay, maybe not that last thing.

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